Let it go(Kimberly Kirberger)

Throughout your life you will be faced with the challenge of letting go. You may have to let go of a pet that has to be put to sleep, a friend who has moved to another state, or even your favorite shirt that’s been shrunk in the dryer. No matter how big or small your loss might be, letting it go is never easy. Your ability to let go is like a muscle you must develop. The more you practice, the stronger is gets.

It’s important to understand exactly what it means to let go. If your best friend moves far away, you must let go of your attachment to living close to her. You have to learn to be okay with the fact that you won’t be going to the mall together every weekend, walking to school side by side, or sitting together at lunch. However, you don’t have to let go of your friendship, you only have to accept that the things you do together as friends are going to be different now. Letting go is the willingness to accept change and loss.

Understanding the difference between love and attachment is very helpful when a romantic relationship ends. At first everything that reminds you of him-the song you danced to at the prom, the food you used to eat together, the places you used to go. You feel like crying whenever you think of him. The only explanation you can think of for how strongly you feel is that maybe you’re still in love with him.

What’s more likely is that you are feeling the effects of severing an attachment. When you let someone into your life romantically, it’s like theh two of you weave a blanket around yourselves. Each thread that pulls apart can feel painful, even excruciating. But the thing you want to remember is this: Although you are miserable now, you will feel better soon. This is a guarantee. You will not feel this sad forever. Just as it took time to develop an attachment to your boyfriend, it will take time to let it go.

It is also important to be able to let go of your stress. When you catch yourself worrying or obsessing over something you really can’t do anything about, gently remind yourself: This is out of my control. I am going to let it go. This is different from ignoring tour problems. You are simply letting go of the anxiety they create. A sense of peacefulness will come over you when you stop trying to control things and surrender to what is.

Letting go of a serious problem like an eating disorder or drug addiction is extremely challenging. It can take a long time before you realize you even have a problem. It can take even longer before you realize you are ready to get over it. You may have developed the eating disorder or drug addiction as a way to cope with other painful issues in your life. It is often necessary to turn to others-people already in your life and professionals like therapists and doctors-for objective feedback and support.

Whether you are letting go of a relationship that is no longer healthy or the pain you carry due to personal problems you’ve endured, remind yourself that you are freeing up space in your life for new, positive experiences, people, and emotions.

Every bit of memory of BH is just kind of a memory to me now. And he is just a passer-by in my life. It's not easy to forget him but I have manage to do it...Because I've found someone more important than him.